Losing Weight: What do you believe?
The more I speak with clients the more I learn
about underlying limiting beliefs stopping
them from losing weight.
You may not even be aware of this belief, it may be something that you learnt years ago which has now become an unconscious pattern.
Maybe you are aware why those extra pounds are keeping you stuck but still follow the conventional route to lose weight, innocently hoping that being overweight is due to eating more than expended energy. After all, it is what we have been told by the medical profession and the dieting industry for years.
Can you rate on a scale of 1-10 how much you want to lose weight? Anything less than an 8 and you are not ready to make a change, there will be an underlying limiting belief keeping you where you are.
No amount of dieting will work in the long term unless you uncover the underlying limiting belief.
What do the scales really uncover?
What if the scales are a measure of how much the limiting belief is keeping you stuck; not a measure of how successful you are at controlling your weight?
What if there are other factors at work “weighing you down?”
We find a diet that works and successfully lose weight to a point, then our underlying limiting belief kicks in and puts us back to a weight of “safety” only to start the cycle again and again. It is so innocently accepted that we are a failure, that we can’t control our eating, that we will have to follow a diet for the rest of our lives.
Diets DON’T work in the long term.
The above explains why the statistics for long term weight loss are as low as 5%. It’s not that 95% of us are failures, it’s because the diet (no matter how healthy) will never overcome an underlying limiting belief that keeps you stuck.
What are limiting beliefs?
Limiting beliefs are like invisible forces that hold us back from being our best self: A false belief learnt during childhood or adulthood that appears to be real. Held deep in the psyche, we may not be consciously aware of our limiting beliefs yet they steer our direction through life and hold us back from achieving our true potential.
Examples of limiting beliefs:
- Being overweight runs in the family
- I have always been overweight
- I don’t want to be attractive to men
- I don’t want to be hurt
- I don’t want to be visible
- I am scared of change
- There is less danger of rejection if I am overweight
- Eating numbs the pain of grief or shame
- Fear of failure.
“If you accept a limiting belief, then it will become a truth for you.”
What if your inability to lose weight is an
opportunity to discover your best self?
Limiting beliefs are hidden yet by looking at repeated behaviours and choices you can see how they have manifested in your life.
So rather than asking yourself why you can’t lose weight, ask yourself the following:
(Be kind to yourself when asking these questions, wait for the answer and don’t judge. You may be surprised by what you learn…)
- How does being overweight benefit me?
- On a scale of 1-10, how much do I want to lose weight?
- What would I have to see to score higher?
- How would life change if I stopped judging myself?
- What do I feel when I am eating?
- What emotions am I numbing when I eat?
- What am I hiding from myself when I eat?
If you have uncovered a limiting belief
what do you do with that information?
Intellectually understanding the limiting belief does not necessarily change the behaviour.
Transformative change in behaviour comes from an insight; an answer that comes from a knowing, not an intellectual understanding.
You will know the difference because an insight changes the behaviour naturally.
You will stop eating on autopilot, you will stop eating when you are comfortably full, you will notice that you are losing weight and you haven’t had to control anything.
You will feel differently.
Wouldn’t that be an easier and kinder way to live?
Your Body Speaks Your Mind by Deb Shapiro
We send messages to every system of the body with our thoughts, feelings and emotions; which in turn brings about a chemical change in the body.
“When you cannot, or do not, express what is happening
on an emotional or psychological level, that feeling
becomes embodied (you take it deeper within yourself)
until it manifests through the physical body.”
In other words, your body will show you where you are out of balance with your thinking, feelings, emotions and beliefs.
Eating according to the needs of the body is our default mechanism. The body is the most amazing machine that maintains balance throughout the system with many processes and feedback mechanisms to maintain homeostasis (balance). Yet we interfere with the balance by overriding the mechanisms through dieting.
Dieting negatively affects the body by:
- Overriding the default mechanisms for nourishment and water
- Believing that certain foods are the problem
- Innocently ignoring the biological impact we place on our bodies through our thinking, feelings, emotions and beliefs.
So why would we continue to follow a diet in order to lose weight?
Because we don’t believe there is a different way, because we are taught by western medicine that this is the only way. Because everywhere you look people/friends/celebrities are following a weight loss plan. Because we are constantly bombarded with a new diet that works!
It is a path that I followed for MANY years, with limited long term success, and then I received some 1:1 coaching on a subject unrelated to weight loss and EVERYTHING CHANGED.
Insight after insight kept showing up: Those “aha” moments when you discover something about your thinking and feelings that had been invisible before. It was inspiring and a revelation, I just knew that this was what I had been searching for during those 30 plus years of dieting.
I realised that the scales were a measure of my limiting beliefs and that by uncovering those beliefs during coaching sessions I was no longer stuck. I reverted to my default mechanisms of wellbeing, joy, and letting my body provide the messages for nourishment and hydration.
I had the answer to many years of dieting failure,
but I had to look in a totally different direction to find it.
My name is Gina.
I am a Recovered Dieter.
Published date: November 5, 2019